While we practice social distancing, it’s more important than ever to maintain connection with those closest to us.

Science shows the human need to socially connect is as much a fundamental need as food, water, and shelter.  Therefore, disconnection in our important personal relationships generally makes us feel misunderstood and alone.

So, how can we improve our relationships and connect with those most important to us?

According to renowned life coach Tony Robbins, the ability to control your emotions is essential to taking your relationship to its peak state.

As Robbins further explains:

When you’re in charge of your mindset, you don’t let small arguments become huge issues. You learn how to turn negative emotions into opportunities to improve your relationship, and how to communicate with love and understanding. When you operate at your peak state, your relationship will be stronger than ever.

Change your state of mind to fully connect.

Let’s face it, negative emotions can get the better of us.  And when they do, we’re far from being in the best state of mind to fully connect with our loved ones.

Below are 3 Tony Robbins takeaways to change your state of mind in an instant.

1. Get moving.

As Robbins says, “emotion is created by motion.”  Note what your posture and body language look like when you’re sad or angry.  Then compare that when you’re happy and motivated.  Very different, right?

So, the next time you find yourself in a bad mood, stand up tall and straight and breathe deeply to instantly feel proud and alert.  Or shake things up by putting on your favorite music and start dancing.  Do whatever works for you.

2. Get enough sleep and eat healthy meals.

It’s no secret we feel best when we get enough sleep and eat nutritious meals.

By the same token, little or no sleep can make us cranky just like skipping healthy meals might make us “hangry.”  Again, hardly the ideal state of mind to fully connect with loved ones.

3. Ask powerful questions.

Each of us has filters that influence the way we perceive things and the stories we tell ourselves that can impede our ability to meaningfully connect with others.

According to Tony Robbins, one of the most effective ways to rewire the root of these filters is by asking ourselves these 3 questions:

• What is something I can do for someone else today?
• What is something I can do to add value to the world today?
• What is something that I can offer to other people?

Robbins points out that by asking these questions consistently, you can see how you can begin to shape the world around you.  And you will begin to see the gifts you have to offer others.  When you engage with the most important people in your life from this mindset, the rewards can be immeasurable.

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