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6/19/18
What Really Happens in Divorce: Myth Vs RealityIt’s common to feel afraid to get a divorce when there is so much information out there that is, well, just plain scary. It’s like getting to the edge of a cliff and being afraid to jump off. Fortunately, most, if not all of this “information” is simply not true. You might call it pure myth. Some of the most common myths I’ve heard include:...Read More6/18/18
Three Ways Divorce Mediation Can Cost You More in the Long Run in DivorceTo obtain a divorce in New Jersey, either you or your spouse files a legal document called the “Complaint for Divorce” with the court. Many divorcing spouses don’t realize they can reach a final agreement This is where divorce mediation comes in. Divorcing spouses might agree to use a divorce mediator to act as a neutral third party to help them agree on all...Read More6/11/18
Six Scientifically Proven Persuasion Strategies To Help You Get What You Want In Your Divorce AgreementYour divorce is likely to go much quicker and more amicably if you negotiate directly with your spouse on such essential issues as child custody, spousal and child support, and division of marital assets. By the same token, you’re more likely to get what you want by using scientifically proven principles of persuasion. In the New York Times Bestseller, Below are the six principles and how you...Read More6/4/18
Simple Divorce Checklist for a Quicker and Less Costly DivorceDivorce can be one of the most difficult life experiences, particularly when you don’t know what to expect. You can maintain greater control of the ultimate outcome, minimize legal fees, and speed up the divorce process by taking these two actions when considering divorce. Consult with a competent family law attorney to find out what to expect. Consult with a competent lawyer that concentrates in...Read More5/31/18
The Surprising Secret to Successful Relationships: It’s Not What You ThinkWe The secret is cultivating the art of listening. And anyone can do it. As the ancient Greek philosopher Epictetus said: “We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak.” Listening is a lost art these days. Listening is at the heart of close relationships with others. Unfortunately, in today’s environment, it’s becoming more and more...Read More5/21/18
12 Most Important Questions to Ask Before Hiring a New Jersey Divorce AttorneyOne of the most important decisions you will make in separation or divorce is selecting the right attorney. Not all divorce lawyers are created equal. Your selection should be made very carefully because the divorce lawyer you choose can profoundly affect the course of your life and your children’s lives, now and for years to come. The lawyer you choose is charged with safeguarding your...Read More5/14/18
Three Ways to Negotiate and Preserve or Improve Personal Relationships (Even if You’re Not Involved in Divorce)I often write in my blogs about how divorcing spouses can save much time and money by reaching divorce agreements out of court. I emphasize that Below are 3 ways to negotiate and preserve or improve key relationships (even if you’re not involved in divorce): Identify limiting core beliefs that distort thinking. Most of us carry around a variety of limiting core beliefs about...Read More5/10/18
Three Consequences to Consider before Moving Out of the Marital Home During DivorceIf you and your spouse have decided to divorce, before your divorce is final, consider these three consequences before moving out of the marital home: If you have children, make sure you have a custody and parenting time agreement in place. Otherwise, you could unintentionally create a new status quo where you have less parenting time. You would likely be obligated to continue to contribute...Read More4/30/18
Two Alternatives to Paying Alimony and Three Key Actions to Take When the Federal Alimony Tax Deduction is EliminatedIf you are separated or considering divorce in New Jersey, you might be concerned about potentially being obligated to pay alimony to your spouse, especially in light of the new federal tax law. Significantly, for divorce agreements executed Therefore, instead of risking a costly outcome by the court, you might negotiate with your spouse for an alimony “buy-out” or disproportionate distribution of marital assets...Read More4/20/18
The Surprising Key To An Amicable DivorceDivorcing spouses can save much time and money by reaching divorce agreements out of court on all issues related to the marriage, including asset allocation, custody, child support, alimony and more. After over 20 years of practicing family law, I’ve learned that the root cause of divorce is long-term miscommunication or lack of communication and disconnectedness. Ironically, the same communication difficulties that existed during the...Read More