Blog
7/9/24
Four Powerful Ways to Amicably Settle Your New Jersey Post Divorce Case Without Going to CourtEven if you’re already divorced, things often change. Perhaps your child is now headed to college and your ex refuses to help contribute to the college costs. Or maybe you’ve been paying alimony and you find out your ex has been essentially living with her new boyfriend for over a year. Sure you can file legal papers with the Court and wait for a judge...Read More6/24/24
Building Emotional Resilience for Tough Times: A Powerful Lesson from The Wizard of OzGenerally speaking, emotional resilience is when we are able to effectively cope with stressful or unexpected situations and crises. When we build emotional resilience, we can access our innate inner strength that helps us rebound from a difficult setback or challenge. Whether in the face of divorce, job loss, illness, or other stressful event, it can be difficult to remain emotionally resilient. You might default to...Read More4/23/24
How to Create the Relationships We Want By Saying What We NeedIt is inevitable that we will be disappointed or hurt by a friend or someone we love. We often expect them to know what we want. But what I’ve learned is that we can choose to create the relationships we want by letting people know what we want and need from them. All too often, we grow up, as I have, with the belief that...Read More3/22/24
Beware of Therapists Who Do These Three ThingsIf you’ve been struggling and find it difficult to manage day-to-day, you may have considered therapy to help. A good therapist can make a big difference and help you significantly in moving forward. But a bad therapist can make things much worse or be downright harmful. In my experience, both personally and in working with clients who are in therapy to help them during divorce,...Read More3/1/24
How to Quickly Recover When Someone Close to You Pushes Your ButtonsI know I have written a lot lately about how to calm our emotional responses when interacting with the people closest to us. This is because not only do I see it happen time and time again, leading to everything from hurt feelings to bitter endings of relationships, I also experience it for myself. And I know the challenges. But I also know the rewards...Read More2/4/24
Three Powerful Ways to Calm Your Emotions and Stay Connected in RelationshipsThe key to successful relationships lies in our ability to see the other’s perspective. But we can’t do this when we become emotionally reactive. We first need to calm our emotions to think clearly and rationally and see where the other person is coming from. Here are 3 powerful ways to calm your emotions during a heated conversation or argument: Pause and notice. What are...Read More12/3/23
How You Relate to Your Spouse Means More to Your Kids Than You Might KnowAs parents, we can’t always be aware of our children’s emotional experiences and how our actions affect them. As a trained mediator, family law attorney for almost 25 years, and child of bitter divorce myself, I know all too well how children can be affected – even if they outwardly appear fine. Kids are like sponges. They are constantly watching and absorbing what we do...Read More8/2/23
Four Powerful Actions to Resolve your differences in Your Most Important RelationshipsRelationships truly matter. As a family lawyer for almost 25 years, I have a regular front row seat to what appears to be hopeless disconnection between spouses and co-parents. Part of what I do is help bring co-parents together to make important decisions for their children. Just as we might keep our bodies healthy with diet and exercise, it’s equally – if not more important...Read More6/5/23
50/50 Parenting Time May be Right for You in Your New Jersey DivorceAs a divorcing parent, you may be experiencing loss and grief that can come with ending your marriage. Likewise, the physical dismantling of the family unit can be truly traumatic for kids. They are losing the only life they’ve ever known – a life with a future that involves both parents and a place they call home. The ages of your children can impact the...Read More4/30/23
Your Hidden Superpower to Ignite Connection With Those You LoveWhether we know it or not, we are negotiating all the time – not just when it comes to our work, but most often with those closest to us. Family life is full of daily negotiations. You might negotiate with your spouse about anything from household responsibilities to major parenting decisions. You might negotiate with your kids about daily chores, bedtimes, or curfews. But what...Read More