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2/6/20
How to Save Money on Lawyers to Terminate Alimony When Your Ex Has a New Romantic PartnerLife goes on after divorce. Maybe your ex meets and becomes involved in a new romantic relationship. But you’re still paying alimony. And you might have heard about “cohabitation” and how it means your alimony payments should stop. So, you might think it’s probably a good idea to meet with a lawyer. But you don’t want to open up a can of worms and shell out...Read More1/30/20
The One Thing Divorcing Parents Can Do To Protect The Kids And Save Money On LawyersDivorce is hard. And it can be Fortunately, now, after over 20 years as a family lawyer and mediator, I know that things can be very different for Talk to your spouse to answer the tough questions your kids most likely have – whether or not they come right out and ask. In other words, make a list. Literally write out the answers...Read More1/22/20
Four Powerful Things to Do to Combat the Fear of Financial Cost of DivorceIf concerns about the financial cost of divorce are keeping you trapped in a hopeless marriage, you’re not alone. In my experience of over 20 years of exclusive family law practice, concerns about financial costs and the children are the two most common reasons why spouses avoid or postpone divorce. Financial concerns often include fear of giving away hard-earned money to their spouse and not...Read More1/15/20
How To Say “I Want A Divorce” And Still Remain AmicableMany couples tend to put off divorce until after the holidays. And with the holidays now over, there’s the difficult task of telling your spouse you want a divorce. And you might wonder if the divorce can ever be amicable. It’s important to recognize that how you tell your spouse you want a divorce will most likely determine how the whole divorce process will unfold...Read More1/10/20
Four Simple Steps to Handle Difficult Conversations with Confidence and EaseHave you ever found yourself feeling like you need to speak up to someone about something but unable to find the right words? When you’re stumped on how to say what needs to be said without pissing off the other person and starting an argument? When it simply seems easier to say nothing at all? But then sometimes, if we don’t say something, things will...Read More1/3/20
Ten Tips on College Costs for Separated or Divorcing ParentsHappy New Year! If you’re separated or considering divorce, is 2020 the year you’d like to start planning for your children’s college educations? If so, and you haven’t yet decided on the specifics of college planning, read on to find out what to focus on and what to do next. College is expensive, to say the least. So, in general, it’s never too early to start planning...Read More12/20/19
How To Dramatically Transform All Your Relationships In The New Year and BeyondI have to admit, during the holidays, I’m a sucker for those cheesy Hallmark Christmas movies. The ones that portray loved ones gathered around a roaring fire or baking cookies in a warm home expressing warm fuzzy feelings to each other. Ironically, I can’t help but notice the stark contrast of this image with today’s reality. Tune in to any major news channel and we become instantly bombarded...Read More12/12/19
Four Ways To Win Your Negotiation When The Relationship Is ImportantWe negotiate all the time with people we see on a regular basis – and with whom we have an ongoing relationship that’s important to maintain. Negotiation is essentially the process of reaching agreements. In business, it might be with business partners, vendors, investors, and employees. At home, it might be with your spouse – from whether to go out or stay in, or whether to stay together...Read More12/5/19
Four Important Tips for Navigating the Holidays with Kids When You’re Separated or DivorcedNo doubt about it – divorce is difficult as it is. And during the holidays, it can be downright brutal. Especially when you have kids who need you. If you’re divorced, it’s likely you already have a custody and parenting time arrangement spelled out in your divorce agreement. If you’re separated, you can have your lawyer draft up a In any case, it’s important...Read More11/25/19
Seven Ways to Feel Grateful for Difficult Family Members this ThanksgivingThe Thanksgiving holiday is traditionally when we celebrate all that we’re thankful for. It’s also a holiday often spent with family members. But what if certain family members leave us feeling anything but thankful? We don’t have to let difficult family members get in the way of an enjoyable Thanksgiving holiday. After all, every challenging relationship is an opportunity to learn something about ourselves and...Read More