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6/27/20
One Simple Action To Stay Calm During Difficult ConversationsYou know the feeling. You’re in the middle of a conversation with someone – your spouse, friend, or co-worker – when the person says something that offends you or makes you angry. You feel your blood temperature start to rise. And what we do in that moment can mean the difference between a productive conversation and a full-on heated confrontation or argument. In most cases, lashing back...Read More6/19/20
Spouses Can Now Get Divorced in New Jersey Without Court AppearanceDivorce in New Jersey just got a bit easier and less costly. But there’s a catch. Both you and your spouse need to do two things: 1. Agree on all matters including 2. Sign a legal divorce agreement, commonly called a signed Marital Settlement Agreement. You and your spouse can reach a Marital Settlement Agreement by negotiating directly or with the help of lawyers, or...Read More6/12/20
How to Confront a Friend or Loved One Who Lets You DownIt’s inevitable. Whether at home or work, someone close to us eventually lets us down. Perhaps we get angry or hurt. It comes with the territory of personal relationships. What can you do? Should you confront the person or stay quiet? The problem with staying quiet is the likelihood of carrying around resentment that affects your interactions with the person and eventually erodes the relationship...Read More6/5/20
The Inside Scoop on Uncontested Divorce in New JerseyIt’s a common belief that to start the divorce process in New Jersey, you need to file a “Complaint for Divorce” with the court. If you and your spouse are on relatively amicable or civil terms, however, you might reach a divorce agreement quicker and at less cost by first exchanging financial information with your spouse. For instance, your lawyer might ask you to first...Read More5/29/20
Your Best Bet for an Amicable DivorceDivorce is more than a legal process. It is an extremely emotional process. It’s also common for one spouse to want a divorce while the other does not. More often, one of the spouses decides, over a period of time, to end the marriage. When you’re the spouse who wants the divorce, it’s important to know this. The way you handle your emotions and the...Read More5/22/20
Three Powerful Tips to Control Your Emotions in Conflict & Improve RelationshipsWhenever we feel attacked or threatened – even if we feel disrespected, insulted, or personally attacked – we experience what’s known as a “fight-flight-freeze” reaction. Simply put, the reasoning part of our brains shuts down and we’re unable to respond rationally in the heat of the moment. And that doesn’t bode well when we want to maintain close meaningful relationships with others. Let’s face it...Read More5/15/20
Do This One Thing to Productively Resolve Conflict in Your Most Important RelationshipsDo you often find yourself holding in your anger at someone to avoid a conflict? Perhaps you’ve held in your anger for so long that you eventually erupt and lash out at this person. As you might surmise, this is not a good way to resolve a conflict. It damages your emotional and physical well-being by creating stress, and it can destroy a relationship. So...Read More5/8/20
How We Can Get Through These Challenging TimesChallenges are a part of life. And we’re living in an unprecedented challenge right now during this global pandemic. But we can experience this unique challenge as an opportunity (stay with me on this…) The single thing that I’ve found most powerful is to start with your mindset. Sure, on many days I think, “this sucks!” But I’ve also experienced and believe that every challenge,...Read More5/1/20
The Big Misconception About DivorceWhen you decide to divorce, there are important decisions to be made about things like The most common misconception I hear is that divorce means going to court and having a judge make these decisions. Especially when we consider that divorce is often portrayed in the media as angry court battles. The overwhelming majority of divorce cases in New Jersey, however, are actually settled by mutual...Read More4/24/20
How Difficult Conversations Can Actually Reduce StressThe longer social distancing and self-quarantines continue, the harder it becomes for us to picture what our post-pandemic world will look like. And so, it’s not uncommon for our worries and anxieties to escalate. In these unusual times, close personal relationships are more important than ever – other people with whom we can share our frustrations, anger, sadness, or perhaps a much-needed laugh. Having others...Read More