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6/10/22

Divorce Can Be Traumatic for Kids But Here’s What You Can Do

I am changing what I said previously in Since then, I’ve immersed myself in studying this subject. I have also observed the impact of divorce on the kids of so many of my clients. As a result, I began to recognize the profound effects of my own parents’ divorce over 40 years ago. So, I am changing my view on this. Yes, it is...

5/27/22

Three Powerful Ways to Ease Divorce Transition for Kids

There’s no question that separation and divorce are life-changing events, and can be a huge loss for everyone involved. When parents separate, it can be incredibly confusing and sad for kids. It can feel like their whole world has turned upside down. When I was 13, my father moved out as my parents embarked on a bitter divorce. My father was a constant presence in...

5/15/22

This Powerful Method for Challenging Your Thoughts Can Transform Your Personal and Professional Relationships

How many times in any given day do we have thoughts about people that are…well… less than ideal for a satisfying relationship? Consider the thoughts we have all day long about the people in our lives that separates us from them. He’s an a–shole. She took advantage of me. When we believe our thoughts, we feel and act in line with those beliefs. Best-selling author...

5/7/22

Can You Become Legally Separated in New Jersey?

You might no longer wish to continue living with your spouse, yet you’re not yet ready to get a divorce. Perhaps your home has become a constant battleground, a source of stress more than anything else. Perhaps you wish to separate from your spouse to see if the marriage is really over. Or, if you have kids, perhaps you’re concerned about how your marital difficulties...

4/23/22

Blurred Lines Between Work and Home is Hurting Our Health and Family Relationships

It seems it wasn’t that long ago that we came home from work, changed clothes, and had dinner as a family. Our workday was done. We knew that nothing would be expected of us until the next day. Going back to, let’s say, the 1990s, there wasn’t an easy way for anyone to even reach us after work hours. And so we actually talked to...

4/17/22

Navigate Disagreements to Strengthen Your Personal and Professional Relationships

Disagreements arise as a natural consequence of differences in perceptions that we have with others. Whether it’s a romantic partner, friend, sibling, colleague, or co-worker, we each have different life and emotional experiences that form our perceptions of people and events now. Basically, we have what Disagreements are an inevitable, normal, and healthy part of relating to one another. When you and someone else...

3/26/22

Five Common Expectations that Create Relationship Conflict

Inevitably, we experience conflict in our personal and professional relationships. But what really causes conflict? Knowing why conflicts happen in the first place can give us a major leg up in heading them off in our important relationships. For the most part, conflicts arise when our expectations of others go unmet. Below are 5 expectations to let go of so we can experience greater peace...

3/12/22

Divorce and Co-parenting: is 50/50 Parenting Time the Way to Go?

Parenting roles have come a long way. And for separated and divorced parents, New Jersey law has come to reflect these changing roles. Back when my parents were divorced in the late 1970s, it was typically the mom’s role as a homemaker to care for the kids and the dad’s role to go off to work. These roles were generally reflected in the custody and...

3/5/22

Three Powerful Actions to Embrace Difficult Life Changes

Everything in our lives is constantly changing. At the same time, knowing that our circumstances, thoughts, emotions, even our bodies, are only temporary, can help us avoid becoming too attached to a particular outcome. But change can be hard to accept. There are certain life changes that can bring about feelings of grief and loss – like losing a job, a loved one, experiencing a...

2/26/22

Three Simple Ways to be More Persuasive

Inevitably – in business or in life – you will need to be able to convince someone to do something. Here are 3 simple ways to be more persuasive: 1. Be confident. You might have heard the saying “it’s not what you say, it’s how you say it.” People tend to be persuaded by someone who is confident – even if you can 2...